No force has been more powerful and central to the human race than that of sexual desire. For many men, the chase for booty has been the inspiration behind our largest achievements, and just as equally, has been the achilles heel that has destroyed some of the most powerful figures throughout history.
One of the most well known stories of seduction is that of Don Juan that has been retold numerous times with some variation. The basic storyline centers around the grand-daddy of all lady’s-men, who devotes his life to seducing women while taking pride in his ability to seduce women of all ages and stations in life. Don Juan (and similarly the Italian adventurer Casanova) came to symbolize the driving force that lies deep within the hetero-male psyche, and has inspired many to spend their lives trying to unlock the formula to sexual attraction.
In recent years, a multi-million dollar industry has emerged with trainings, seminars and digital downloads that coach men how to manipulate the laws of attraction. It usually begins with a journey through evolution before outlining a series of techniques that can be used to get women into bed. One of the leading figures in the industry, Neil Strauss, became an icon after his best selling book, “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists”, amassed a following of young professional guys who eagerly signed up to learn his methodology.
Soon after, his understudy Erik von Markovik (better known by his alter ego “Mystery”), took the ‘seduction community’ mainstream with a show on VH1 and a nationwide tour attended by throngs of loyal followers. A series of coded terms such as the “IOI” (Indicator of interest) or the “AFC” (average frustrated chump) were used like a military operation to enable men to diagnose certain situations, and then dial up the right play. Undoubtedly, it produced a certain level of success although few would argue that it truly unlocked the mystery of attraction.
Unfortunately, for all the time and money spent making ourselves more attractive, it’s all rather pointless when you consider the reality.
That for every obnoxious douchebag out there spilling beer on my shoes – there will always be at least one attractive female willing to sacrifice her peak years with this guy. And while the ladies refer to the “tall, dark, and handsome man with ambition” as their poster boy… it’s clear that guys who aren’t even close are getting laid at an alarming rate.
The problem is not that we’re un-attractive (even though some of us are), but rather, that we can’t always have the person that we want, when we want them. And we don’t always know what we want in the first place. Far too often, we look to fulfill some kind of emptiness in our lives through others and then wonder why we’re unhappy.
Over the years, I’ve received an outpouring of advice from friends, relatives and complete strangers on how to attract women. Everyone seems to have an opinion on the matter including elementary kids who believe they have it figured out. But looking back at all the time and energy spent over the years chasing females, I have to wonder if the mystery was ever meant to be solved.
Somewhere along the line, I discovered that it’s not so terrible to go out into the world alone without depending on others for company…to a movie, a restaurant, a coffee shop, a concert, or favorite travel destination. I also wonder if others like me wander the planet amongst all the happy couples living the dream. Others who like to get out and stay active with the belief that the right people will just fall into place.
With that said, I can’t discard all the priceless nuggets of wisdom I’ve received over the years, for I knew they’d come in handy someday. So I present a few of them below for your enjoyment. Feel free to add your own.
1) “Walk up to her and act like a prick. Chicks like assholes.”
2) “Start with the ‘gargoyles’, then gradually move up to the hotter women.”
3) “Its all about the numbers. The more you hit on, the better your odds.”
4) “You don’t have to be healthy, you just have to look healthy.”
5) “Get a mohawk so you’ll stand out. Chicks love mohawks.”
6) “Just walk up and pretend you own the place.”
7) “Wait till she’s looking, then casually pull your shirt up and flash your abs.”
8) “Just be honest. Go tell her you think she’s sexy and you wanna take her home.”
9) “Tell her you’re a lawyer.”
10) “Go hit on her ugly friend to make her jealous, then she’ll wanna get your attention.”
Nick IV Productions 